Many months ago, I guessed that I inadvertantly offended a person on Twitter because I discovered that she changed her handle and unFollowed and Blocked me. I asked a mutual Twittermate what happened, she disappeared for a while and came back to say that I had said something offensive about the woman's IBS and that she too was Blocking and unFollowing me in a show of support for her friend. Since that time, 4 other people in the clique Blocked and unFollowed me. I had a couple e-mail addresses and a second Twitter account, so I tried to apologize. This is hard when you don't know what you said wrong; general apologies sound a bit insincere. I've also sent e-mail Christmas cards, etc. But, to this day, I remain Blocked and unFollowed by all. Do you think there is anything I can do to get back in the good graces of these folks? Friends of theirs are happy to Tweet with me, but the core group remains closed.
My knee jerk response to your email was to ask what makes you want to pursue a relationship with tweeps who treat you so badly?
As I understand it you believe you have said something unwittingly offensive to someone but you don't really know what? She hasn't challenged you but has instead withdrawn from you? Then some of your mutual contacts have withdrawn from you in support of her? You have tried to apologise and make amends but you remain outside?
I feel under the circumstances, you have done what you could don't you? Yet here you are wanting 'to get back in the good graces of these folks'. If you has come to me for counselling I would have asked you what makes this so powerful for you? But because I am unable to ask that question. I am left reading between the lines. My hunch Walter, is you are responding to some childhood experience and not to this adult problem. In my opinion these people are bullying you with their silence and you are feeling punished. I understand how painful that can be. But I assure you these are not tweeps to pursue a relationship with. Adults discuss, compromise, solve problems. These tweeps are in 'child' and I think you are allowing your 'child' to respond.
I have heard of this happening to other tweeps and like you they have felt upset, done much soul searching and thought why me? However, after a period of metaphorically licking their wounds, they have been able to accept it has perhaps been for the best. I hope you become one of their number. There are lots of good people on twitter who will befriend you why not connect with them?