Saturday, 14 January 2012

Post Op - Day One



Day one post op and I'm feeling fine. I'm sore and achy and if I'm honest a bit wary of going to the lavatory but otherwise I'm fine. Once again I would like to mention Facebook and Twitter because I have been overwhelmed with good luck messages and support and for that I'm grateful. There will be people who think it doesn't count or it isn't real but let me tell you it makes me feel loved so hey bring it on!

I have had visits from my daughter and eldest granddaughter. I suppose there's nothing remarkable in that after all I see them all the time but again the offer of support is important. My son called me and I have had loving messages from my daughter in law and most of my grandchildren which I appreciate and phone calls from friends all of which boosted my moral. But the best thing is that my OH is there with me all the way and is there even though it's inevitable that I'll chew his ear during the healing process. I confess I am not the easiest patient. I am pernickety and hate not being in control. He is also a controller but in a covert way!

We have been married for fifty years come August and it seems like only yesterday. No I wouldn't cancel it if it was tomorrow though I've cracked that particular joke for years! It hasn't all be unalloyed happiness and it would be fair to say the most difficult have been the last ten years since my OH's retirement. He didn't find the process easy and then went for broke when he had his second heart attack and developed prostate cancer to make it more interesting! My twitter mate Robert Cragg wrote about loss of identity after retirement and I think my spouse certainly felt that. I also feared it but to date that hasn't been the case. Anyway I digress I wanted to speak about the support we can access not necessarily from our family but from friends on the net.   

I have found and continue to find my interactions via the social networks stimulating and nurturing. Yes I've experienced a bit of bother secondhand but that's nothing in comparison to all the positives I've received. Yes there are charlatans and users but the vast majority are ordinary people who want to reach out and connect. Ok had I not been online I would have still had the operation and the support from my inner circle but I am online and as a result I'm able to access good feelings on an enormous scale. That for a girl like me who in childhood felt unloved and unwanted counts for something!  


10 comments:

  1. Good News! And the good news will continue - you won't lose your identity, in fact you will expand it.
    Let me explain: a man marries and becomes a father - his main job is as provider and even though he will interact with his children, in our age group he was breadwinner and a little bit parent.
    Women on the other hand are mothers and wives and then they develop into employees, but it is an even split between the different roles; so when one goes - such as work, we still have other roles and because we have learned to diversify - nurse, friend, etc we still know how to adapt and we do. You will continue to grow and I hope that you will soon be well enough to prove me right x

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  2. Thanks for the mention babs - keep on getting better! I have found Twitter to be an invaluable source of friendship and support. Not only in my post-retirement 'crisis' but as a full time carer who finds it difficult to get out and make new friends. Yes, there's a lot of rubbish and, frankly, idiots, but there are also many genuine caring people.

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  3. Thanks Pat I have every intention of diversifying and facing the challenge of this next phase of my life. Btw thanks for your loving support :) x

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  4. It's a pleasure Robert I look forward to getting to know you better and accessing mutual help and support :)

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  5. Glad to hear you are feeling ok considering.I had a small op a few years ago and going to the loo was one of the things I dreaded but eventually it was fine.I love twitter and get more support from there with people I haven't met than facebook with people I have met...strange.And friends think I'm mad .they don't understand twitter.I'm dreading the day my husband retires, I am accepting getting older much easier than him, still quite a few years to go but oh my goodness it will be a nightmare. Hope you continue to improve and are back to your old self soon.

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  6. Glad you're feeling the love from your social media chums. You get what you give... and you give plenty! Good to hear that all has gone well... Take care xx

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  7. I am pleased to hear that all went well Babs - I am like you too not the easiest patient - I dont like sitting around and being waited on (although I always say I would).
    But its lovely to have so much contact from friends and family either in visiting or just simply putting a touching message on FB or Twitter - for me that really did cheer me up no end.
    I can fully understand when you wrote about the loss of identify after retirement, and for a lot of people that also comes with a loss of a job, unemployment and endless days of the same old thing. Social networking certainly got me through those dark days.
    Hope you continue to feels lots better and gain from your op.

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  8. Wishing you the best and a speedy recovery! Put a smile on my face when I got up this morning and my email said you had a post up. Sending smiles back your way. :-) :-) :-)

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  9. thanks Sheila for your continued support and understanding :)

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  10. Thank you Anne for your response and your empathy. It's just an idea but perhaps you and OH could talk on occasion about how you see retirement working - you may have more in common than you think :)

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