Day one post op and I'm feeling fine. I'm sore and achy and if I'm honest a bit wary of going to the lavatory but otherwise I'm fine. Once again I would like to mention Facebook and Twitter because I have been overwhelmed with good luck messages and support and for that I'm grateful. There will be people who think it doesn't count or it isn't real but let me tell you it makes me feel loved so hey bring it on!
I have had visits from my daughter and eldest granddaughter. I suppose there's nothing remarkable in that after all I see them all the time but again the offer of support is important. My son called me and I have had loving messages from my daughter in law and most of my grandchildren which I appreciate and phone calls from friends all of which boosted my moral. But the best thing is that my OH is there with me all the way and is there even though it's inevitable that I'll chew his ear during the healing process. I confess I am not the easiest patient. I am pernickety and hate not being in control. He is also a controller but in a covert way!
We have been married for fifty years come August and it seems like only yesterday. No I wouldn't cancel it if it was tomorrow though I've cracked that particular joke for years! It hasn't all be unalloyed happiness and it would be fair to say the most difficult have been the last ten years since my OH's retirement. He didn't find the process easy and then went for broke when he had his second heart attack and developed prostate cancer to make it more interesting! My twitter mate Robert Cragg wrote about loss of identity after retirement and I think my spouse certainly felt that. I also feared it but to date that hasn't been the case. Anyway I digress I wanted to speak about the support we can access not necessarily from our family but from friends on the net.
I have found and continue to find my interactions via the social networks stimulating and nurturing. Yes I've experienced a bit of bother secondhand but that's nothing in comparison to all the positives I've received. Yes there are charlatans and users but the vast majority are ordinary people who want to reach out and connect. Ok had I not been online I would have still had the operation and the support from my inner circle but I am online and as a result I'm able to access good feelings on an enormous scale. That for a girl like me who in childhood felt unloved and unwanted counts for something!