Tuesday, 10 January 2012

Anonymous Bullying



One of the Potential Problems with Blogging as far as I can see is that one can be opening up an arena for anonymous bullies. To date I have been very fortunate on that score. I have been respectful to others and others have been respectful to me. However, a couple of days ago something quite disconcerting happened. I had suggested a debate asking whether children should be dressed as mini adults and I received a couple of comments. The comments were not about what I had said but to what one of my respondents had said. Both comments were not pertinent to the debate and were obviously meant to be contentious and insulting and though initially I printed them I then decided to delete them. 

This morning I received another comment which read

 'Do only posts that agree with you go on here or are people able to share opinions?! Or is it that some people posting don't like the truth?! 

and so I decided to deal with it here and now. The answer is that you do not have to agree with what I have said and I am quite happy to print your responses. In fact I welcome debate. What I do not welcome and I am not happy to print is abuse. I will not allow my blog to be used to bully anyone and nor will I be bullied. I would suggest that the person or persons who are emailing me from a yahoo account desist forthwith and if you wish to air your views then air them with the person concerned and not on my blog.

To the other readers of my blog please keep coming back and sharing with me. I really do appreciate every one of you and I feel very lucky that you connect with me and the things I have to say.

16 comments:

  1. Good for you, bullying has no place on the internet and annonymous bullying is not only wrong it is cowardly - a bit like a naughty school kid having beaten up someone and then hiding behind mum whilst she is saying "Not my child!" and then you laugh and stick your tongue out! Sorry bullies are fit only to be ignored

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  2. Anita-Clare Field10 January 2012 at 15:11

    Hear hear, It is surely up to the person administering the blog as to which comments are published. Like you say debate is one thing but really abusive emails? How utterly profane.

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  3. Well said Babs - and carry on just as you are - you do a fantastic blog and love the way open up your blogs for discussion

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  4. thank you for your comments and support :)

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  5. thanks Anita it's nice to know other people feel as strongly about bullying

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  6. Thanks Pat I agree bullying in this way is an act of cowardice and it is not be confused with exercising free speech

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  7. I completely agree and in fact as blog manager, you have a responsibility to your readers and to yourself to make sure that comments posted are fair. If I'd received insulting, attacking comments, I'd have thought twice about allowing them.

    There is an appropriate way to disagree with others without making derogatory remarks. Those who know you Babs respect that you are big-hearted enough to accept that there are infinite ways at looking at an issue. 

    No, it's your blog - you should say what goes! And that's my final word on the matter. :-)   

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  8. Good for you Babs. Too many cowardly people hide behind anonymity to bully people online and then complain when their evil comments are deleted.

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  9. Thanks Gail I appreciate your input :)

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  10. Thank you for your kind words of support Nikki. I feel very strongly about bullying and imo it is never ok. I intend my blog to be a safe place to explore and discuss issues and I will work strenuously to ensure that's the case :)

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  11. unhappy of manchester10 January 2012 at 20:55

    These people who bully online are obviously very unhappy with their own lives and need to start looking at them selves instead of  having an unhealthy obsession with other people.

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  12. Well handled Babs. There was a big story in the news recently about women in particular receiving abuse online and how it had made some women wary of expressing their opinions. It is vitally important that we stand up to bullying of any kind - disagreeing is one thing, belittling and bullying quite another.

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  13. No one expects everyone to share the same point of view but that doesn't make it acceptable to bully those who don't - or indeed fly off the handle that they dare disagree. Why should you as blog owner allow that kind of behaviour?  

    I totally agree with you on this, bullying should not be tolerated, on or off line, far too many people are keyboard warriors and use anonymity to attack others.

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  14. Bravo. Bullying should not be tolerated under any circumstances.

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